Breaking Point

That's it. The limit is reached. The point of no return has been crossed.

THE END.

How to Get Over Best-Friend Betrayal

A step-by-step guide to getting over your best friend, close friend or significant other betraying you.

Step 1

Do not try to push the betrayal from your mind to deal with later. Find a safe comfortable place (I prefer the back porch, the shower or the kitchen table). Dwell on what happened.

The human mind can only focus on things for a set amount of time. Go over every detail, start to finish. Actively think about what has happened.

When you feel you have mentally covered the entire incident, move on to Step 2.

Step 2
Pick one thing you love to do and go do it. It doesn't matter that you probably "don't feel like it". Whether it's driving around town, lifting weights or singing to your house cat, do it. And do it again tomorrow.

On this one, only pick healthy things--no drinking, cutting, drugs, or bad decisions. This will, ultimately, make moving on harder.

Step 3
Call three or more old friends, preferably three you don't speak to often. Make plans, throw a party, meet up for lunch, whatever you like. Just spend time with different faces. These friends will probably ask how you are doing. Tell them all about your current life aside from the betrayal. If you need to talk about it, add it as an after thought and state it with a positive.

EX: "[name] and I are no longer speaking, but it's given me a better perspective on [this]."

Studies show that the more you act and speak like you feel great, the better you will actually feel. If you need proof of this, next time you have a back/muscle ache, don't tell anyone about it.

Give everyone a genuine smile when you speak to them. You'll feel a lot better, sooner.

Step 4
Make a list of things you felt you couldn't do when your life included the betrayer, or a list of things they never provided for you emotionally.

Betrayers are rarely good friends after you put their behavior in perspective. They were most likely deficient in many ways as your friend or lover. Now burn the paper you wrote the list on, or if you made the list in your head, imagine it burning to ash.

Now go do your favorite healthy activity again. Do it every day until the hurt of that betrayal has passed. If it really is a healthy pass time, you will find yourself a much better person by the time the hurt has passed.

Tips & Warnings

• Actively seek out other friends to spend time with. Humans are social beings; sequestering yourself often leads to bitterness, depression and fear of returning to society.
• Get yourself on a schedule if you're lacking one, or change it up if your life is usually very structured. Change gives you something to think about besides the pain.
• Never use drugs, alcohol, or self-harm to "escape" the pain. You WILL bring yourself more pain.

Step 2

Pick one thing you love to do and go do it. It doesn't matter that you probably "don't feel like it".
Whether it's driving around town, lifting weights or singing to your house cat, do it.
And do it again tomorrow.

On this one, only pick healthy things--no drinking, cutting, drugs, or bad decisions. This will, ultimately, make moving on harder.

Step 3

Call three or more old friends, preferably three you don't speak to often. Make plans, throw a party, meet up for lunch, whatever you like. Just spend time with different faces.
These friends will probably ask how you are doing. Tell them all about your current life aside from the betrayal. If you need to talk about it, add it as an after thought and state it with a positive.

EX: "[name] and I are no longer speaking, but it's given me a better perspective on [this]."

Studies show that the more you act and speak like you feel great, the better you will actually feel. If you need proof of this, next time you have a back/muscle ache, don't tell anyone about it. Give everyone a genuine smile when you speak to them.
You'll feel a lot better, sooner.

Step 4

Make a list of things you felt you couldn't do when your life included the betrayer, or a list of things they never provided for you emotionally.
Betrayers are rarely good friends after you put their behavior in perspective. They were most likely deficient in many ways as your friend or lover.
Now burn the paper you wrote the list on, or if you made the list in your head, imagine it burning to ash.

Now go do your favorite healthy activity again. Do it every day until the hurt of that betrayal has passed. If it really is a healthy pass time, you will find yourself a much better person by the time the hurt has passed.

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Wealthy People

To maintain a moderate lifestyle - Easy

To maintain a moderate lifestyle when some of your friends are rich people - Difficult

To maintain a moderate lifestyle when majority of the people you know around you grew up in a rich family and thus live a luxurious lifestyle - Extremely difficult

I wonder where I belong...

Best Friend

Do you have a best friend? What qualities should a best friend have? In this article I am going to be writing about what constitutes a best friend, I myself have had a number of best friends in my life of which only one has stood the test of time.

Your best friend should be somebody that you can trust one hundred percent. You should be able to confide in them knowing that they will not spread your news to other people. How many times have you told a friend a piece of personal information and have then asked them not to tell anybody else about it? The sheer fact that you had to ask them not to tell other people should tell you that they are not best friend material.

All of us have stages of our life when we really need a friend. We may be in trouble, we may have done a terrible deed, what we require in this situation is somebody to support us, listen to our problems, offer advice, possibly a room to spend the night but most of all not to judge us. We all make mistakes; after all we are all human. A best friend will offer all of these things, without hesitation.

We all need somebody to be able to phone from time to time, just for a chat, somebody who will make us laugh and ultimately happy. We all need to have the odd night out, perhaps at the cinema, perhaps to go for a drink or perhaps to go to the theatre. A best friend will be the person to call and will make time for us in these situations.

A best friend will not stab you in the back by attempting to steal your boy/girlfriend, they will not spread rumours about you, you should be able to trust them with your life.

Does your best friend have the qualities mentioned above ? If the answer is no, this does not mean that you need to dump this person totally, it merely means that you should not be regarding them as a best friend.

Business Class

Below is an article from a local newspaper. I never have the privellege to fly in business class and to be honest, I do envy people who get to fly in business class although I agree with the author that the money could have been spend for better purposes.

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Is business class really worth it?

Business class ... it's all a bit embarassing.

It's the prawns that do it. Big fat, juicy prawns. Before that, it's possible to believe that this isn't all that special, that sitting back in economy class wouldn't have been all that different. That despite the express everything, plus the open bar, the smiles, the huge seat and the big screen, you're not all that impressed.

But there they are, three plump, fresh prawns balanced on thin slices of mango, a dressing of some sort casually draped over the top.

You don't get prawns in economy. You don't get an entree course in economy. You get a little TV dinner-style thing - a plastic cup of plastic salad, a cardboard bread roll, a foil-covered tray of mystery meal and a plastic cup of plastic cheesecake. So the fact you have this little plate of food in front of you at all is a surprise.

Come to think of it, so was the fact the waitress - sorry, hostess - addressed you by name while taking your pre-dinner drink order.

Oh, and the fact you got a pre-dinner drink order. Yes, I travelled business class. No, I didn't pay for it.

Like most business-class travellers, mine was the result of my job. Some nice people offered to put me in the pointy end of the plane, and I accepted. Now, like Derek Zoolander, who can't turn left, I find it very difficult to get to the plane door and turn right.

I didn't pay for business class because I wouldn't pay for business class. I can't see the sense in shelling out four times what you would normally have to, just for a few hours of extra comfort (and a couple of prawns).

But at least I now know what I'm choosing not to do should I ever be in a position to be able to afford to have that choice. The trouble with business class is that it's all a bit embarrassing. To be a good business-class traveller, you have to be a champion pusher-inerer, one of those people who would have barged you out of the tuckshop queue at high school.

It starts when you arrive at the airport and sail through the business-class line while all the economy schlubs patiently wait in their long line and stare at you thinking, "How the hell can that guy afford business-class seats?"

You're then given a little "express" customs card, meaning you once again breeze past the economy classers as a nice lady points you in the direction of the customs official waiting just for you.

Another nice lady then holds back the baying masses as you sneak in to the front of the line at the X-ray scanners.

So far, so much pushing in. You then wheel your stylish roller luggage up to a magical part of the airport I had no idea even existed: the airline lounge. There'll be no greasy cheeseburgers or lukewarm kebabs on this transit - maybe a salad from the buffet, perhaps washed down with a cocktail from the open bar.

By the time you've checked your email on the free Wi-Fi and caught up on the news on the big screen, the first boarding call is ringing out and you know what that means: more pushing in.

Straight to the front of the queue as you ease your way on board and into your giant seat.

There, you recline with a glass of sparkling wine as the plebs from economy class hassle their kids down the aisle and stare at you thinking, "How the hell can that guy afford business-class seats?"

You wonder how much better this can get. Do you get an inflatable dingy stowed under your seat instead of a life jacket?

Or a parachute?

Not quite. But the rest of the flight is all wine lists, prawn entrees, a selection of main courses with the chefs' names listed next to them, cheese plates, movies on demand, first off the plane and first bags around the carousel. All in all, a completely different - and completely undeserved - experience to those in the back of the plane.

It's not perfect, though. There are certain truisms of travel that no amount of money can alter - most notably, the fact that if the wings suddenly fall off and the plane plummets into the ocean, you're just as screwed as those poor bastards rammed into economy class. There's also still the chance your "priority" baggage will be lost. Probably somewhere luxurious, but still lost.

It's comforting to keep those things in mind when it comes to your next flight. Because as embarrassing as flying business class is, as uncomfortable as you feel about all these little undeserved extras that are being dangled in the face of the economy people , there's only one thing worse than this flight full of uneasiness: going back to economy.

值得深思的形容

我在我的朋友的部落客里发现了这么一篇的文章，值得让人深思：

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我不能输给他，

我一直追求的就是赢了他那瞬间的快感 ─

嘴角的上扬、

心在知道赢了的当儿停止跳动然后突然加快、

周围的人 并不能够感受到的急促呼吸、

还有他那假扮淡定的失落。

然后，

我会在无人的时候，

不停地享受着自己知道获得胜利那一刻的荣耀和骄傲，

不停地感叹自己为何能够如此出色，

虚拟自己会如何嘲笑他这个输家。

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我不能输给他，

为什么他要这样做？

一定有什么原因，不可以，我也一定要这样。

不能输， 我不能输。

乱糟糟的头绪、

患得患失的心情、

难以掩饰的暴躁，

胜利的快感已经完全被淹没了，没 有了。

但他还是依稀淡定从容。

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既生瑜，何生亮？

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胜利真的代表一切吗？ 今天的失败也许是明天的成功！
可是，要做到不计较别人，要不比较，却是难如登天啊！
我也不例外。

UNSW on Strike!

Striking academics to defy ban

A NUMBER of striking academics at the University of NSW will front lectures next week in defiance of being stood down without pay.

Senior staff from the law faculty and other schools will ignore an instruction from the university's director of human resources, David Ward, that ''no work will be accepted'' from them.

The National Tertiary Education Union branch president, Susan Price, said lectures would be held on campus lawns if the academics were denied access to their buildings.

''It wasn't our decision to stand them down,'' she said. ''The university had other options. They took the option with maximum response, backdating their action in some cases.''

A meeting held by union members yesterday voted to continue the strike until Tuesday.

As the dispute escalated, the university stood down more staff, with three academics from the school of chemistry joining up to 80 other workers.

The striking staff members are refusing to enter students' final exam results into the computer system as part of the campaign.

The union fears the vice-chancellor, Fred Hilmer, is trying to weaken its hold over working conditions and reduce staff participation in decisions. At the core of the dispute are demands for a reduction of staff on short-term contracts. Paid parental leave and workload are also being discussed.

Law students also signed a letter of complaint to Professor Hilmer. ''[The standing down of lecturers is a] shameful turning point in the quality of education offered by UNSW and [will] cause enduring damage to … the law faculty,'' they wrote.

A spokeswoman for Professor Hilmer said the standing down of staff had been staggered because of delays with processing results.

''About 60 letters have now gone out. They're being sent as human resources becomes aware of which staff are failing to transmit results as part of the [union] action.''